The Real Mumma: Stop asking couples when they will have children

A popular Australian blogger who struggled to have children has told people to stop asking couples about their plans to conceive

Adele Barbaro, from Melbourne, has spoken out about why it is so important that people think before they speak.

The blogger, who runs The Real Mumma blog, struggled to have her two children and had to resort to IVF to conceive.

Adele said in a recent blog post: “The odds of conception and retaining a pregnancy are pretty sh*t, topped off with a huge amount of people that are re-productively challenged with polycystic ovaries or endometriosis, etc. And I was one of them.”

The blogger went on to have two children, but said it was far from easy and the struggle was an emotionally raw experience.

She said: “IVF sucks. It is the most time-consuming, invasive, expensive and emotionally painful rollercoaster I have ever been on. It actually broke me.”

Despite her completing her family with her two children, she said she is still asked about any plans to have more children.

She said: “Many couples will be trying for years. Some never succeed and my heart goes out to them.”

She also talked about the couples that might want more children but jut can’t afford to or those who don’t want to have children at all.

“So next time you go to give that ‘throw away’ comment to the newlyweds or those who have been married for ten years, be sensitive. Don’t ask them when they are having kids. You never know what is going on.”

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