31 year old Georgie King began having fertility treatment in January 2021 and bravely decided that she would do it alone after her divorce left her convinced that she’d never meet the right person. But during the process, she met 29 year old Maddi Gillow on a dating app and the pair hit it off straight away. And now they’re raising a baby together!
Georgie mentioned to Maddi that she was having fertility treatment using a sperm donor and Maddi was “completely supportive”. Just three weeks later, Georgie discovered that she had become pregnant and Maddi was delighted.
Maddi was “completely on board” and set about looking after Georgie, even bringing her frozen cola, Georgi’s craving to help her deal with morning sickness.
In December 2021, Georgie gave birth to a baby boy, Bowie, at Mater Hospital, Brisbane, Australia, weighing 7lbs and the couple are happily raising him as a family.
Beaming Georgie says, “I was so desperate to become a mum – and was perfectly happy going it alone to have my beautiful boy. But Maddi came along at just the right moment and hasn’t missed any part of my journey into motherhood”.
“She’s the perfect co-parent and I love raising Bowie together. The moment I saw Maddi holding my baby, my heart just exploded.”
“I realised I didn’t want to separate my dating life and new role as a mother, so at that moment I decided I wanted Maddi to be part of the family, and now we fully intend on being together forever.”
They’re now looking into the possibility of Maddi adopting Bowie, but will wait until he’s old enough to decide for himself. They also plan to have more children together.
After her divorce left her heartbroken and “back to square one” Georgie spoke to a friend, “I was speaking with my friend one day and I just said: ‘Why don’t I do it myself? I’ve got the experience and the knowledge of what it takes to raise a baby and I’ve got the greatest support network in my family.’”
“Being gay, I knew I would go through sperm donor and fertility treatment anyway, so it didn’t seem so ridiculous to go through the process on my own – I’m a very independent woman so I knew I could do it.”
“Once I had that first thought, it really became something I started pursuing so I started the process pretty much straight away.”
When choosing her donor, she was provided with a list of 20 potentials and chose one with similar features to her own. “It was a huge mix of emotions – I was just so desperate to get the show underway. By that point, I’d done the grieving of doing it by myself, so I felt really at peace and was just really excited.”
Georgie’s first attempt at becoming pregnant had been unsuccessful, so she took a month away from treatments and it was during this time that her relationship with Maddi blossomed.
“I thought to myself: ‘Oh bugger, I think I’ve got feelings for this girl but I’m about to have a baby – this is so inconvenient.’ Maddi is so laid back and she was a beautiful calming presence to be around while also bringing so much peace to my life when I was very chaotic and had a lot of things to work on myself.”
“She was outgoing and fun, and we just laughed all the time. Neither of us knew if it was going to be serious or long term but we just knew we loved being around each other and we both had a gut instinct to just go for it.”
10 days later, Georgie did a pregnancy test and it was positive. “It was excruciating waiting for Maddi to get home from work to tell her”.
“When she arrived back, I was sitting on the bed and said: ‘I know it’s really far in advance, but do you think you’d be able to buy two Christmas presents this year, one for me and one for the baby.’”
“She cried and I cried, and we stood looking at each in shock for 10 minutes.”
Maddi said: “I couldn’t believe it – I thought it would take a while for her to get pregnant, so I was preparing to be the comfort and support Georgie needed throughout the process. But the news just brought pure joy and happiness.”
Maddi had been keen to attend scans and the birth, but respected Georgie’s decision to go it alone, “patiently waiting” by the phone and pacing to hear news when Georgie was taken in for an emergency C section due to low iron levels.
“Maddi was so supportive and incredible with Bowie. It was the final reinforcement that our gut feeling was right and we were meant to be together.”
“Some people have been with their partners for years and struggle with parenthood but honestly hand on heart, we only got stronger through that whole experience.”
Maddi added, “Bowie’s my little buddy. There’s no way I could love him more whether he came from me or Georgie – I just love him so much.”
Georgie is keen for other women to do the same, “There is a misconception that women having children by themselves is a last resort, but it was my first preference. I would have liked to have seen more examples of women doing things differently when I was going through it myself”.
“It’s good for women to know that it doesn’t matter what path you take – it’s about what is best for you and your child. When I was first considering the process, I called my mum in tears saying: ‘What if no one will love me if I’ve now got a child?’”
“But she reassured me that the right person wouldn’t even think twice and that was Maddi – she didn’t even blink. It was the ultimate act of unconditional love and now we’ve created this beautiful little family.”
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