All of us are struggling right now, whether it’s the upset of missing loved ones, the stress of having a loved one with the coronavirus, money and job concerns, the upset of the daily figures or the sheer boredom of staying at home, we’re all struggling in some way
Imagine all of that on top of struggling to have the family you so desperately deserve?
If you’re struggling with your fertility at this already testing time, it may help to know that you’re not alone. There are many couples and individuals around the world who are in the same situation, and now, some are speaking out to highlight to others that they’re not in this on their own.
Fertility treatments are stressful and sometimes upsetting, but most of all they’re time critical. And with travel restrictions to clinics and abroad, it makes them even more stressful.
With guidance being announced in many countries on the suspension of IVF cycles and other assisted fertility procedures, here’s some couples’ experiences
Angie, from Vancouver in British Columbia, had been administering her daily ovary stimulating injections twice daily for five days when the call came from her clinic. They said they had taken the difficult decision to cancel her egg retrieval procedure the following week. Angie then became worried that her ovaries had been so stimulated that they may develop cysts. She asked if her clinic could perform an ultrasound only to be told they couldn’t.
She said that after all the stress of IVF and spending $3,000 , she was “so angry and upset that she burst into tears at the financial and emotional loss”.
26 year old Ashley Carnes and her 41 year old husband Gene had been trying for a baby for more than two tears. After a few months of preparation for IVF, she was told by email that her clinic would no longer be starting any new cycles.
She said, “We were excited. We have been praying for this for a long time. I am thankful they are looking out for our health and safety, but it’s so hard to deal with the unknown of what’s going to happen next. The next month is going to feel like a year.”
34 year old Susan Nelson from Minneapolis had got as far as egg retrieval in February and was hoping to have her embryo transfer in the coming week. But since her procedure resulted in internal bleeding and emergency treatment, she discovered that the delay had cost her, by email from her clinic telling her that her transfer had been put on hold.
“You lose a lot with infertility. It always feels like something was stolen from you. You don’t get to choose how many children you want or build the family in the way you dreamed. And sometimes you don’t have the choice of any children at all. But now to not even have the privilege of trying to build a family is just adding insult to injury.”
“Everybody has their own hurt right now. It’s hard for people to find space and appreciation for the unique ways we are being affected, because we are all dealing with our own wounds.”
Some people have made their own decisions to cancel treatment
36 year old Halle Tecco from Charleston, founder of Natalist, was receiving treatment at a New York clinic. After getting the go ahead to begin and having a fridge full of injections, she chose to cancel in March.
Halle is an asthma sufferer and didn’t want to add to the risk of getting coronavirus by travelling to and from the clinic.
For others, hearing the stories of being on lockdown with kids is too hard to bear
Ashleigh, 36 years old and from California, says, “Everyone is home, and there are so many jokes about pandemic babies or how tired parents are of being around their kids. I have this constant battle not to tell people to appreciate what they have.”
With so many unknowns at the moment, we feel for each and every person struggling with their own TTC stories and we just want to send you all so much love and to let you know we’re all here for you