Like so many of us waiting for our IVF treatments, Lance Bass, 41, and his husband Michael Turchin are in the same boat
Sadly, they have been struggling to make their dreams of having a baby come true for years and have just faced a new setback. They had two pregnancies in 2019 end in miscarriage, and now their surrogate has elected to stop working with them.
The former N’SYNC singer said, “Unfortunately, we just lost our surrogate that we’ve had for over two years. But now, we found a new donor, and we love the donor, so we have our embryos ready to go right now.”
This donor is their 10th over the past five years
While they have their embryos frozen in the lab, the coronavirus pandemic has hindered their search for a new surrogate.
Lance says that this has been especially challenging on the couple’s emotions.
“And so now, now begins the process of finding a replacement surrogate which is hard during Covid, because a lot of surrogates really don’t want to get pregnant during a time like this.” He and Michael are still recovering from last year’smiscarriage. He has spoken to plenty of other couples who have gone through this same pain, and questions whether miscarriages are more common with IVF.
Though the science does not back up this notion, Lance and Michael say that they have spoken with a number of other couples with the same heartache. “I didn’t even know that as we were going through this, but we’ve met so many great couples who have the same story. So, you do feel a lot of support knowing other people have gone through it.”
Lance has always wanted to be a dad, but was worried that he might not be able to fulfil his dream because he is gay. However, with today’s scientific advances, Michael and Lance have been trying to start a family since they got married in 2014.
They have arranged for eight cycles of IVF with as many different surrogates, and finally got the good news that their surrogate was pregnant in January 2019. Sadly, the pregnancy ended in miscarriage after eight weeks. According to an interview with People Magazine, a second pregnancy, this time of twins, ended in another miscarriage in September of 2019. Lance told People, “we lost both of them.”
The couple is determined to keep trying and hope to find a new surrogate as soon as possible
So many other couples can surely relate to the agonising waits and complications during the global pandemic. Have you had your treatments halted during coronavirus?
We wish Lance and Michael all of the luck in the world on their quest to find a new surrogate and have a successful pregnancy.
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