Comedian Kristen Wiig is known for her hilarious movie roles and SNL legacy, but things haven’t always been fun and games for her and fiancé Avi Rothman.
In a rare interview, she spoke about her personal life and difficult journey to start her family
The couple succeeded in keeping the birth of their twins, via surrogate in January, out of the public eye. However, they were photographed in public in May out and about with their babies. Kristen recently spoke to InStyle about her family, and how they are coping with lockdown.
“We’ve sort of been quarantining since January because of the babies. We’re nesting, and we’re tired. Having two 9-month-olds is a lot! But they’re growing, and I can’t wait to see them every morning. It’s not all just lying around and smiling at babies, though. It’s overwhelming to think about everyone else who’s struggling, and it’s hard to be good knowing that.”
Kristen, 46, kept silent about her and Avi’s fertility journey, and didn’t want to speak publicly about their decision to use a surrogate
“We tried to keep the [surrogacy] process private for as long as possible, because it is a very private thing. Unfortunately, we were photographed with them—and, well, it’s out there! As private as I am and as sacred as this all is, what helped me was reading about other women who went through it and talking to those who have gone through IVF and fertility stuff. It can be the most isolating experience. But I’m trying to find that space where I can keep my privacy and also be there for someone else who may be going through it.”
Kristen and Eli have been together for five years, but spent three years in what she calls “the most difficult time of her life, emotionally, spiritually, and medically.” She says they were “in an IVF haze… there was a lot of stress and heartache… bad news after bad news.”
Any one of us going through (or who has gone through) the IVF process can relate to her sentiments
It’s very common to just shut down emotionally and withdraw from friends, and Kristen went through the same. “It got to the point where I just kind of stopped talking about it entirely, because I would get sad whenever someone asked. It was just part of my life. I gave myself shots in airplane bathrooms and at restaurants—and those shots are no joke.”
While she wanted nothing more in the world than to get pregnant and give birth herself, she and Avi found a wonderful surrogate. “I was over the moon feeling them kick for the first time, but then I would get in my head and ask myself all these questions, like, ‘Why couldn’t I do this?’ At the same time, I would tell myself it didn’t matter. She was giving us the greatest gift, and I just wanted them to get here!”
“Overall it was a very beautiful thing, and now that I’m on the other side, I wouldn’t have had it any other way.”
Have you considered using a surrogate? Or have you taken the surrogate route to create your family? We would love to hear from you at firstname.lastname@example.org