Lisa Thompson wants nothing more than to be a mother. However, after 12 miscarriages, she is obviously worried that her dream will never become a reality
In an incredible act of love and support, her friends have launched a campaign to help raise the funds she needs for IVF treatment – something she views as her last chance.
Lisa lives with her partner of six years in Jarrow and first fell pregnant in 2010 when she was 27. However, the pregnancy was ectopic. She has tragically since had 12 more miscarriages.
Like so many women, Lisa has endometriosis, a debilitating and excruciating condition in which uterine tissue grows in different places around the body.
She says that having a baby is ‘all she ever wanted.’
She has applied for NHS-funded IVF three times but was shockingly turned down because her partner Phil, 53, has living children. His three children are in their 30s. (Click here to read more about egg sharing)
This reasoning is all too common with certain NHS Clinical Commissioning Groups (CCGs) around the country. Even though Lisa doesn’t have her own children and played no part in raising Phil’s grown children, they have deemed her ineligible. Every borough across the country has its own rules and regulations about who qualifies for IVF, IUI, and other fertility treatments on the NHS. They all have different age limits and other qualifying criteria, including having a partner with living children.
In January of this year, Lisa applied to donate some of her eggs in order to partially subsidise her IVF treatments. She was told that the cut off is 36 years old – since she is now 37, she was denied.
“I was ready to give up when I got the news. Being a mum is all I’ve ever wanted, but I have tried everything to conceive naturally over the last ten years and have probably spent hundreds of pounds. I’m not going to be able to carry any other way – the IVF is my only chance.”
Her friends and family are now trying to help her raise £4,500 to cover the costs of IVF. Her Go Fund Me page, which was set up on July 9th, is now at more than £1300. She also hopes to raise awareness about the inequalities in the NHS, a problem that is often referred to as the ‘postcode lottery.’
“If I lived in Middlesbrough or Scotland, I would have been eligible for IVF on the NHS because I’m not a mum. If it’s going to be one rule for one trust, it should be the same for all of them – someone shouldn’t lose out because they live in a certain area.”
What do you think about Lisa’s fundraising efforts? Do you think that couples should turn to online fundraising to fund their IVF treatments? What do you think about CCGs across the country have different rules – should they be standardised, or should each borough be different?
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