I want to share my story with you and I’m hoping it will help me by getting things off my chest.
My husband, now 45, had a vasectomy at the age of 28 when he was with his ex wife after having three daughters. Sadly, he didn’t really want it done at the time, but that’s another story.
Myself (34) and Steve met seven years later. He had a reverse vasectomy and we did get pregnant, but tragically, I miscarried. We were told Steve has 100% antibodies so IVF was the only option.
We’ve been having treatment for three years now. I’ve had five transfers and used two different clinics, but sadly not fallen pregnant since.
Life has been even more tough for us over the past six months following a family feud with Steve’s daughters.
Whilst I was having IVF treatment in September 2017, we found out that Steve’s eldest daughter was pregnant.
We received the news in a text from Steve’s middle daughter. Neither Steve nor his middle daughter are on good terms following an argument and we think this was her way of causing further trouble and upset. One month later we then found out she was pregnant too.
For my IVF cycle in September, I donated my eggs, as I wanted to help other ladies.
Donating also meant we received discounted treatment. We froze one embryo and had it transferred in February of this year. Five weeks ago we found out that it had failed.
I’m so heartbroken at how insensitive his daughters have been. Prior to the fall out we had poured our heart out to them and told them everything about us trying for a baby for seven long years. They know the struggle we’ve been through. I helped bring them up and yet I haven’t seen them for six months. I have written them a letter and they have ignored me.
I just want a family of my own and I’m feeling so heartbroken at how they’ve treated me and their dad.
I was so good to them and I helped take on three young girls at the age of 25.
We have been told to start again as soon as we can but we do not have the funds.
I’m so scared I won’t be a mum, I feel like I am being punished, and I want is to have a baby with my husband.
Thank you everyone for reading my story, it’s good to have a moan 🙂
Let’s break the silence
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